Monday, February 4, 2013

There's a new Angel in Heaven....

Thank You all for your kind words, thoughts and prayers
for my Mom and My Family during this difficult time.
As I always say...Blogging Friends are the Best Friends!

At 2:43 a.m this Monday Morning.......
A New Angel entered into Heaven!
Her name is Helen
82 years young!

As my Brothers, Sisters and myself had to come to an
Agreement to turn off the Life Support on our Mom!
It was the most difficult decision that we will ever have
To make in our lives, especially if you have a Family
like mine.

Not everyone was in agreement...after 30 hours
of living in the waiting room, and sleeping in chairs.
We were all exhausted, hungry, needed showers,
angry, full of questions, grief, what, why, how?
Voices were raised, harsh words were said, feelings
were hurt...and in the end...enough is enough!
We can't go on like this. Mom can't go on like this.
A decision had to be made and their was no winner.

At 2:00 a.m we told the nurse we are done.
We are all physically and emotionally drained.
There was no change in Mom's condition.
She was still having seizures due to lack of oxygen
To the brain. There was no brain activity.
The end has come. The nurse called the Dr. and told
him our decision.  Mom was given some pain medication
and a few Minutes later we gathered around as they pulled out
The Life Support tube.
As we stood in a circle, gathered around her bed, and the
Chaplain saying Prayer, Mom's body began to relax, her breaths
got shallow, then at 2:43 a.m she took her last breath!

I cannot Believe she is gone, just like that!
She is in a better place now.
No more pain and suffering.
Mom was living with Parkinson's Disease for the last 30 yrs.
She was confined to a wheelchair, unable to walk and do
certain things on her own. She lived at a Nursing Home for
the last 3 years.

Again, Thank You all for your Friendship. I wish you were
All here so I could give you a Hug.
It's gonna be a Loooonng week! Funeral on Friday.


Phyllis said...

My sincere sympathy and prayers for you and your family.
Hugs, Phyllis

frontporchprims said...

I am so sorry Sandi. My prayers and thoughts are with you. -Steph-

Karen~The Barely There Primitive Bear said...

You have my deepest sympathy, Sandi.
I have been there, I lost my Mom 9 yrs. ago at the age of 82, also. Looking after her and making decisions was left on my shoulders. I will be praying for you and your family.

Big Bear Hug~Karen

~Sara said...

Sending prayers and hugs ~Sara

Cindi said...

I am so sorry Sandi ! I wish I was there to give you a hug! Keeping you all in my prayers this week.
Be blessed,

Jan - Life on Buttermilk Hill said...

I am so sorry for your loss...I've been is the hardest decision to make, but the bravest.

Unknown said...

I am so sorry for your loss, you made a brave decision.
We made the same decision a few years ago for my husbands mother, she was in the same way as your mom.

Farmhouse prims said...

Sandi, I am sorry for your loss, My thoughts and prayers are with you. Bunches of hugs, Lecia

Christine said...

Dear Sandi my heart goes out to you and I pray you will indeed find grace and strength through this sorrow.
God bless you with His peace and comfort.

The Bear's Blog said...

My prayers go out to you and your family.


The Rusty Thimble said...

Sandi you are in my thoughts and prayers I am so sorry for your loss.

wish I was close enough to give you a big hug


Dicky Bird said...

Still saying prayers for peace. Blessings from Ringle, WI.

Trace4J said...

You and your Family are in my thoughts,heart and prayers.

Melanie said...

I'm so sorry, Sandi. I'll be praying for you and your family...always so hard to lose a loved one. Take care.

Jean Barker said...

You made the right decision. Giving your Mom the peace, grace and dignity she needed is the ultimate expression of Love.
My heart goes out to you and your family. I pray your family will come to terms with the decision made and see she will always be with them, although not physically. The days to come will be hard, but God will be walking with you in every step. I know from experience.
Blessing, prayers and big hugs to you,

Old Time Cindy said...

I am so sorry for your loss.
Sending hugs,

Wendy @ Ravenwood Whimzies said...

Oh Sandi - I am so very sorry for the pain your family is experiencing now. The loss of your dear Mother must be so hard. I hope the rough time everyone had will just make you a stronger family in the end.
God bless - praying for you all.

Marsha @ Tattered Chick said...

Dear Sandi I am sorry for your loss. Your mom is at peace and young and free of pain. She is home and waiting until the time you are reunited. I said goodbye to my mom 27 years ago. I had a dream the night before her funeral. An angel came to me and told me not to cry for my mom. She was home and happy. Ii felt a peace wash over me. I woke my sister up to tell her about the dream and she had just had a similar one. I pray that an angel visits you and brings you peace. Xo Marsha

Unknown said...

Sandi, I'm so sorry for your loss.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.

bettyj said...

Sandi, bless your heart. I am praying for you, as I know too well what PD does to those we love. Sorry the other had to be thrown in there.

Barb said...

Dear Sandi,
My sincere sympathy and prayers for you and your family at this difficult time.
Having been an ICU Nurse and watching the struggle the family has to make to remove life support, breaks my heart for you and your family. It truly is one of the hardest decisions you ever have to make. Sorry you had to go through that.
Hoping for peace to come to your heart.

Felicia said...

(((Hugs))) Sandi. May God go with you and hold you in the coming days. He will He is right there beside you.


Theresa said...

Sandi, I'm so sorry to hear of your mother's passing.... sending you some love and hugs. My prayers and thought are with your family.

Gail said...

Sandi, I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Hugs, Gail

Teri said...

I am so sorry to read about the loss of your mother. Sending prayers up for you and your siblings for understanding and healing. A big hug to you!


I am so very sorry Sandi. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Family. I am so sorry you were faced with this difficult decision. Many Hugs and prayers,

Tiff said...

I am so sorry. Nothing I can say will take away your pain, but please know that I will keep you and your family in my prayers.


A Primitive Homestead said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I know their are really no words that can take away your hurt.Lifting you in prayer. Blessings! Lara

Unknown said...

Oh, I am so sorry. I know what you are going through, I lost my mom a couple years ago but it still feels like yesterday. Your faith will get you through. God bless you and your siblings, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Pam@OurAdventuresInHomeImprovement said...

Sandi, I am so very sorry for your loss. May your Mom Rest in Peace.

God Bless you and your family.

The Moonlit Stitch said...

What a trial you have been through-my heart goes out to you- I pray peace and healing will be yours in the coming months ♥Lisa

Kendra said...

Oh Sandi,

I am so sorry. I know how hard it is to go through all that, the waiting and watching and hoping and praying and wondering...

I don't care how old you are 6 or 66, it is so hard to loose your mom. No one knows you like your mom does. I was 31 when I lost mine.

Your mom is with you and will be all the time now.

Be well my friend. I will be thinking of you on Friday, good luck.


Firecracker Kid said...

oh Sandi, you have my sincerest condolences. You're right, she is in a better place, with no more pain and worry.


Jody Wakefield studio said...

Sandi I am so sorry... there is perhaps no harder thing to go through. The memories of her will live on in your heart always. Take care of yourself.


Pamela@ The Sampler Makers Farmhouse said...

Oh I am so sorry for your loss, she is at peace now, and you are in my thoughts~

My Colonial Home said...

I need to give you a huge hug and say it's okay...but in your heart you are still hurting and will for some time to come.
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING...I can't imagine living like that just on life support. It's a difficult decission for sure but the right one.
I pray for you and your family that by now the hard feelings and anger have gone and you all know this was the RIGHT THING TO DO.
Bless you all and I also want to say Happy Valentine's Day to you and a big thank you for always visiting my blog and leaving your sweet comments.
I'm so bad at doing the visiting as I have so many wonderful friends I like to visit that it takes me forever to make the rounds. But eventually i get here/there.
Hugs and prayers

Deb Riddell said...

Sandi, my deepest condolences to you and your family on the loss of your Mom. The decision that you had to make with your family is never, ever an easy one but your Mom is at peace and free of pain now and for those reasons alone the decision you made was the right one. Hugs to you and yours, Deb

Margaret said...

Hi Sandi, I'm so sorry for your loss. It's an unbelievably painful thing to go through but have faith. Thank you for visiting my blog. I hope it cheers you a little. Blog friends can pull you up with happiness and inspiration. I am your newest follower too. Love, Maggie

Tammy ~ Country Girl at Home ~ said...


I am so sorry I wasn't here to pray for you before, but I will for sure and the entire family in days to come! I know that had to be a difficult decision. When you know where they are and in a better place, it is comforting.

I'm sending a big hug to you!

Love, Tammy

Ann said...


I've been behind on my blog reading. I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. What a difficult and emotional time. I hope today finds you starting to heal. ~Ann